WK 4 Blog : Who am I as a communicator?

The similarities between how I evaluated myself as to how I believed I communicated with others’ where the same pertaining to scale scores of my evaluation of communication anxiety Inventory. For instance, my family scores and my colleague were in the same range within the scale scores, in which were between; 25-31. I was very surprised to see that their viewpoint on how I communicate with others in general was consider to be effective communication within the same context in considering the scores in which they reported indicated “I feel comfortable communicating in most situations and feel confident in anticipating such encounters.”

However, there was a slight difference in what my self-verbal aggressiveness scale reported and between my family member score. For instance, I gave myself a score of 64. However, my family member gave me a score of 73 in which, indicated I was moderate in which I maintain a good balance between respect and consideration for others. I am surprised to see that the scores were different. I never realized that I was viewed differently by my family in opposed to my perspective I never realized that my family would view me different than what I thought about myself. For instance, according to the self-evaluation chart the score my family member gave me placed me to be verbal aggression in which consisted of me being significant with little provocation, I might cross the line from of “ argumentativeness, “ in which attacks a person’s position or statements, and verbal aggression, which involves person and can be hurtful to the listener.

However, I disagreed on the difference because my family member who evaluated me knows how to push my buttons in which gives me no other choice but to defend myself from being disrespected and insulted considering I am the parent and she or he may be an adult but they shouldn't cross the line of self-verbal aggressiveness scale.

What surprised me the most my colleague viewpoint was within the same scale range as myself who viewed me to feel comfortable in communicating in most situations and feel confident in anticipating such encounters.” However, taking inconsideration that I share a different type of relationship between my family members than with my colleague I can understand the context of having to different viewpoints. I feel good about what learned about how other individuals might view myself verbal-aggressiveness within different context of judgment than myself.

Therefore, upon evaluation of my listening styles profile we all shared the same similarities in thought considering my profile placed me in group 1. “In which, states I am empathetic and concerned with the emotions of others. This listening style helps me to build trustful and respectful relationships, but it can interfere with proper judgment because I tend to be very trusting of others. Why? I am surprised because I sometimes think when I am speaking to a family member or a colleague they are not listening to everything I am saying to them within having a conversation with them that will be effective and consider to be competent communication. Why? Because they might at time dominate the conversation and I sometimes feel I don’t have an opportunity to be heard. This is consider to be unfair treatment in which cause conflict and misinformation to be taking out of context.

In conclusion, considering how each might inform my professional work and my personal life I have learned from this self-evaluation I must be consider of others feelings upon effective and competent communication. Furthermore, it might inform me to realize it is a give and take situation in which I learn everyone deserves a right to speak and be heard in order to build healthy effective competent communication and strong leaderships and relationships within our society.

Week 3- Blog Communication with people from diverse cultures

                                                      

     When I think about the cultural diversity within my workplace, I think about exchanging appropriate information to welcome all cultural primary language so that children, parents and staff will feel comfortable within a multicultural setting that consist of two teachers who speaks Spanish and English. The majority of the children and their families in my workplace consist of Hispanic families and staff in which most of them are bilingual. Therefore, I take in consideration of all the aspects that make up a culture, including “race, religion, political affiliation, sexual orientation, and varying abilities." For instance, the different ways I communicate differently with people from different groups and cultures or with a disability consist of English and Spanish considering both languages when using interpersonal communication involving verbal and non-verbal communication. For example, I will use positive words, cues, gestures, sign language, written documentation, music, books, pictures and offer an interpreter if needed. Therefore, I take in consideration towards another individual feelings and I value their opinions and ideas. I show respect, sensitivity, compassion and a sense of humor at all times to encourage interaction among the children and their families and co-worker’s. 

     For instance, I listen, observe, focus, empathize and respect and think before I speak in order to deliver effective communication. I will welcome, a comfortable, fun and positive communication within the environment by sharing stories are age appropriate jokes and giving respectful complement’s upon stating it is a pleasure to have your child in our classroom and saying thank you for sharing your opinions and ideas when communicating with the children, parents, staff and my supervisor. I use effective communication by respecting their feelings and acceptance of their differences and similarities in freedom of self-expression when sharing information. The different ways I communicate differently. For example, a parent enters my classroom to drop off her child to school. I greet the parent and child with a smile and I ask open ended positive questions. How are you doing today, to let the child, parents, staff and my supervisor know I am here to address any concerns they may have by giving them my full attention and direct eye contact with a smile to make the parent and child and others to feel comfortable within their environment in order to build a trustful relationship.

     In addition, if the family primary language is English I will greet the parent and child with a smile in English. “Good Morning” Ms. or Mr. Garcia how are you doing today? I am glad Bill is here today he is a smart child and a good listener who plays very well with the other children". However, if the parent and child primary language is Spanish I will greet them in Spanish with a smile, and say “Buenos dais." Ms. or Mr. Garcia. When considering I am not fluent in Spanish showing respect for their culture by making the child and their family member feel welcome I chose to learn how to greet them in their primary language. 

However, at home, I used formal and sometimes informal language with my family and friends called "Slang Language" but in playful ways. For instance, my girlfriend or boyfriend call me on the telephone and said "what are you doing today" I will say " just chilling” or "Let’s Roll " I might call them by their nickname What's going on Slim or Big Baby. 

    Therefore, Slang Language is just a figure of speech. Therefore, out of respect for other individuals feelings I don't use vulgar language what is described in the dictionary that may be used by other individuals when communicating in which it may consists of words and phrases that are regarded as very informal, are more common in speech than writing, and are typically restricted to a particular context or group of people. Therefore, when I am in the workplace I will communicate using the formal language in which I conduct myself in a professional at all times, However, there are times I use a sense of humor to encourage other people it okay to smile are laugh within a workplace, you should be able to interact in a fun loving environment and not take everything so seriously.Therefore, when I communicate with my co-workers or supervisor, I don't use Slang Language and I stay away from bias remarks because, I don't want the conversation to be taken out of context in which may can cause a misunderstanding or destroy trustful relationships.

     The three strategies I could use to help me communicate more effectively with the people or groups I have identified will consist of the following; 

1st. Using positive interaction to model communication that the exhibits respectful communication between sender and receiver that incorporates positive feedback in waiting for the appropriate time to speak. For example, listen and think before speaking about what the person is saying before asking open end questions about what you don’t understand but be polite to the individual by respecting their feelings

2nd. Make sure I show interpersonal communication using positive and respectful verbal and non-verbal communication when speaking to an individual so they will know they are being heard and you care about what they are saying and avoid bias remarks.  3rd. Used communication, cognition may or may not consist direct eye contact however, it is to be observed and thoughtful of other individual feelings when communicating to listen and interpreted before offering feedback.  

Week 2 Blog-My Sister's Wedding

                                                    

                                                   My Sister’s Wedding  

    This episode was based on relationship experiences between a couple who loves one another and finds out there are some hidden secrets about the groom pass that cause the bride to call off the wedding ceremony. The interference between the oldest sister,groom and her youngest sister who was getting married fines out the oldest sister from out of town had a one night stand with her groom 10 years ago during the time they attended college together. Therefore,all three character's showed ambiguous hurt feelings for each other that consisted of nonverbal communication in which facial expressions and body movements consisted of blinking, stammering, or hesitations in speech in which indicated deception.

   
      In addition, verbally crying and latching out negative words towards each other that cause frustration, distrust, dishonesty,disrespect and lack of support from the oldest sister and her fiance.Furthermore, his fiance felt betrayed by the groom who had been interment with her older sister and called off the wedding. The groom hided secrets about his pass relationships with other women in which he never mention to fiance. The character’s relationships are based on family, friends and other individual's who had been effected by not communicating openly about their pass relationship’s and how it can affect a person's life. Furthermore, it is best to  forgive one another and trust one another and love the person for whom they are as an individual in order to have a healthy relationship and partnership.The assumptions that I thought about the characters and the plot was based on interpersonal communication consisting of exchange of verbal and nonverbal messages between two individual honesty towards being respectful and understanding and listen to one another opinions and to keep an open line of communication between one another had been influenced by other individual's that affected  the couple to have a healthy, trustful and honest relationship.
         For instance, relationship's should welcome appropriate communication in order to feel comfortable with the person you are in a relationship and partnership, such as family member's, friends and people within your environment.The assumptions that I would have made about the couple would be based on being more considerate towards other individual feels when communicating and to be passive towards building a trustful and honest relationship and to keep an open mind about present and pass relationship with friends and family members by sharing opinions about how hidden secrets can affect the love you have for another person. Furthermore, individual’s negative behavior can effect a person throughout life, triggering aggression and making it hard to trust and be honest to another individual. I learned, it is important to listen, think, and ask questions about a person, so you can learned about that individual and gain a better understanding when communicating verbal or non verbally before jumping to conclusions about an individual ideas, opinions,and offer suggestions.To be honest and keep a positive open line of communication and forgive and accept a person individual differences in order to build a strong healthy relationship and partnership with the people within your environment.

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Written, produce and directed by Paul D. Hannah

Wk 1 Blog- Competent Communication

In reference to demonstrating competent communication with a particular context and use responsible thinking when speaking effectively would be my Godmother, Ms. Runnels. She demonstrates respect when communicating to family members, friends, and myself. For example, When I wanted to continue my education and I didn't have the self confidence I needed to peruse my education. She told me, "You can do whatever you put your mind to do just go back to school and focus on achieving your goal." Furthermore, She has taught me that education is the key to success. Therefore, with the ability and my disability I am now perusing my Mater's degree. I would want to model what she has shared with me. The willingness to share information, listen to other's opinions, and feelings all while using reasonable thinking. I want to make something of my life and by understanding, respecting, and influencing others I know that I am able to accept responsibility for to my unique characteristics. Also, I will achieve a higher education and have the opportunity to learn how to use ethical communication and the importance of the fundamental ways of using responsible thinking and decision making. In order, to develop positive relationship to help children and families well being within their communities.